That Little Thing Called Fear

I've spoken to a lot of people who say how "brave" it is for me to have quit my day job to pursue comedy. But, the truth is - it's not like I just woke up one day and did it... I dreamt it. I wanted it. I thought about it for a million minutes until I talked myself out of it.

Then... I thought about it some more - talked to some friends who were "full time performers" and asked for their advice. Then, I spoke to a (wonderful) Career Coach about quitting my job...  talked myself into it and out of it again.

It wasn't until I said it out loud - "I am going to do this" -  that I knew it was actually going to happen. And that I set it into motion. 

Once I heard myself say out loud what I was going to do - I finally took the step.  Or... shall I say - the very first step. I created a plan and put everything into place piece by piece... and when the day finally came (over a year later) to give my notice to my boss, I still thought of reasons not to do it! It took a few yelling friends to make me finally pull that plug. Afterwards... it felt amazing. But what was holding me back for so long?

Fear, of course - what else? Why do we (not) do anything? Fear. It's always fear, dear. 

I was once told that guilt was a pointless emotion - an emotion that just makes us feel crappy about stuff that we often can't do anything about. So... I started to think - is fear also a pointless emotion? An emotion that only holds us back?  Well, I'm sure the initial purpose of fear was to protect humans from harm - but over thousands of years, that emotion has evolved and fear has created hesitancy for those wanting to take risks, and try new things,... basically: do things that they know they want to do. But they won't. I've been weighing this idea... and I've decided: No. No, fear is not a pointless emotion. Because, without fear -  how else would you know what you truly desired? Fear is, in fact, a pointing emotion - it points us towards what we need to see. Fear points us in the direction that we need to walk.

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What are you afraid of? What has been stopping you from achieving something fulfilling?

 

I'm afraid to ________ even though I want to.


So far, I have heard some really thought-provoking fears... 

I am afraid to quit drinking for one month even though I want to.
I'm afraid to pursue a career in acting even though I want to.
I'm afraid to quit acting and go back to a day job even though I want to.
I am afraid to break up with my girlfriend even though I want to.
I'm afraid to travel even though I want to.
I'm afraid to leave my husband even though I want to.
I'm afraid to ask for a raise even though I want to.

What do you want?  Help me fill in the blank. I want to hear it not only because it will add to the conversation.... but, because, my dear, once you write it or say it out loud - you'll be a few steps closer to doing it.

You can thank me later.